A picture of an elderly couple kissing.

I’m not sure about the first part . . . how much kissing happens is largely determined by the personalities of the kissers and where they are in their journey together. However, the wanting to be together and talking more is crucial, isn’t it? Without that, the kissing isn’t really love and has little value.

In other words, if the kissing is a physical expression of the friendship, the bond, the tingle that exists between two people, that is sweet and precious. Also, sometimes the best kisses are just the quick peck on the cheek that says I like you, you’re special to me, I’ll be thinking of you. It’s a natural bit of the relationship that makes us smile inside. – Maria

A picture of the VHS movie box of An American In Paris, featuring Gene Kelly.

Maybe it’s because I spent a lot of time watching the recent Paris Olympics but I have been wanting to watch An American In Paris lately. I watched so many Gene Kelly movies on PBS growing up, and this is one of the best. He and Leslie Caron make a great on screen couple. The dance scene by Seine is one of the most romantic in film.

My younger sister and I took tap dance lessons back when we were in our twenties. I was a hoot! I was horrible at it, but it was fun. We bought tap shoes and tried our hardest. Gene Kelly makes it look so easy and this is one of the reasons everyone loves him so much. He’s working hard but he makes it look effortless. He makes tap dancing on roller skates, on a piece of paper, with Tom and Jerry look so easy. I think I’m not coordinated enough to be a tap dancer. I can’t hold the beat very well which is essential to tap.

Have you taken any dance lessons? – Cris

a picture of a quote: The quieter you become, the more you can hear.

Have I told you that some of the best, most satisfying conversations I have are with my children? At the supper table, our conversation topics range from Henry VIII’s personality and why the Tudors are so popular to current world politics and economies to philosophical questions and the next steps in our journeys. The other day, one of my sons and I had a fascinating talk about this quotation and how it can be interpreted.

The more quiet I am, meaning the less I allow outside noise, like social media and people who negatively complicate my life for no good reason, to take up space in my mind, the more I will hear what is important. I will hear what is necessary, what is true to who I am, having time and internal space to connect the dots of my life in order to live my journey in a calmer, more sustainable way.

Also, I know I am a poor listener and it is something I have been trying – small steps – to work on lately. Specifically, I am reminded of this when I talk to one of my sons, who stutters severely. I listen and try to understand what he is explaining about technology and specific steps in game creation. I try to think of reasonably intelligent questions, which means I don’t always absorb everything as I am worried I will forget the questions!

How do you interpret this quotation? – Maria

A picture of a book cover: Maria's Version.

Summer is almost over and to mark that I have put on my nightstand what may be my favourite novel. This season will come to a satisfying end with my annual rereading of cranky Barney’s version of his life. Part of why I love Barney’s rambling, funny story is because it is filled to the brim with opinionated digressions.

Another reason I reread it is because Barney does remind me a lot of my father: his smoking – although our dad did not smoke cigars – and drinking, swearing, his difficulty sustaining friendships because of his drinking and opinionated personality, but also the complexity of his relationships with his children, the critical importance of reading and education.

What is your favourite story? Why do you like it? – Maria

A picture of a box of tissues.

When you go to the grocery store to buy tissues do you take time to choose the prettiest boxes of tissues or do you just grab the first set of boxes you see? I like to take my time and choose the boxes with designs I find interesting or have the colours I like best.

I think being a surface pattern designer would be interesting. Learning how to make repeating patterns, or single motif designs is something I would like to learn. There are companies that will print fabric for you with your own design on the fabric, in the colours of your choice, such as Spoonflower. I would love to sew a bag with fabric I’ve designed myself. It would add another layer of my personality to the project. One of my favourite surface pattern designers is Gaia Marfurt. I love her whimsical designs

Don’t get me wrong, I’m happy with my job, but to design a pattern and then walk into a store and see your design on a box of tissues seems like a cool thing.

What items would like to see your design on? – Cris

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